It seems like only yesterday that your daughter was still playing with her dolls. Today, she's wearing braces, making TikToks, asking you to drop her off two blocks from home, and talking about the "hottest boy in school." You can tell: the time to bring up the topic of menstruation is approaching.
How to talk about periods with your daughter?
It's a personal topic that can feel awkward to broach. But with a little preparation and a lot of kindness, it's entirely possible to have a natural and healthy discussion about your first period .
1. Choose the right time and place
Invite your daughter to talk in a private place where she feels safe. This time should be calm and conducive to listening: in the park, over coffee, or at a picnic.
Take an opportunity when she seems open to conversation. Share your own experience as well to connect and normalize this stage of her life.
2. Explain to him how the female body works
One of the best ways to break the taboos surrounding menstruation among young girls is to simply explain what happens in the body. Talk about the menstrual cycle , the uterus , the ovaries , and the vulva in clear words.
Some concepts to convey:
- A menstrual cycle lasts on average 28 days, but it can vary from 21 to 35 days.
- Periods usually last between 3 and 7 days.
- The flow is heavier the first few days.
- The first period occurs on average around the age of 12 (but can appear between the ages of 8 and 15).
- It is normal for the cycle to be irregular at first.
Fun fact: Some girls get their periods 6 to 12 months after their mothers.
3. Introduce the different menstrual protections
Your role as a parent is to offer them an informed choice . There are several types of menstrual protection for teens available today:
- Menstrual panties
- Washable sanitary napkins
- Menstrual cups
- Free instinctive flow
- Tampons (biodegradable or not)
- Disposable or eco-friendly sanitary napkins
Explain the pros and cons of each. To begin with, period panties are often the softest, most comfortable, and most secure option.
Create a small emergency kit with her, including protection, a change of underwear, and some wipes. This will help her feel prepared and confident.
Encourage her to keep a cycle journal or use a menstrual tracking app. This will help her better understand her body and emotions.
4. Celebrate this step: a passage towards womanhood
In many cultures, the first period is celebrated with a small, symbolic gift. Why not give them our special First Period Teen Kit to mark this important milestone with kindness and affection?
In conclusion, periods shouldn't be a source of shame or embarrassment. By talking about them naturally and without judgment, you allow your daughter to approach this stage with confidence. And remember: an imperfect discussion is better than no discussion at all.
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